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Subject: Re: Monday Night Dinner? 6/02/2025
Date: Wed, 4 Jun 2025 16:48:31 -0500
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Ed P wrote on 6/4/2025 2:31 PM:
> On 6/4/2025 2:13 PM, ItsJoanNotJoAnn wrote:
> 
>> My mom was 16 when she and my dad married and were married
>> 42 years when he died.  She was grieving terribly but one
>> of my brothers begged her watch his son, her grandchild, as
>> he started kindergarten.  She didn't want to, wanted to
>> be left to her grief but she said getting him ready daily
>> for school, waiting for him get out of kindergarten
>> around noon, fixing his lunch, and him being there with
>> her saved her sanity.  It gave her something to think
>> about and focus on him instead of constantly grieving
>> about my dad.
>>
>> Hopefully when your son moves in that will give her focus
>> on him such as cooking for him and have someone to talk
>> with.  I'm not implying she'll be his maid, but it gives
>> her something to do, to think about meals and him coming
>> home instead of dwelling on her lost life and lost partner.
> 
> Everyone is different but life has to go on.  What would the deceased 
> person want you to do?  Probably to be happy, not be gloomy all the 
> time.  Miss them?  Sure, always will.
> 
> If it is your spouse, perhaps you even discussed it.  There should be at 
> least some basic ideas of what they want and expect.
> 
> I recently spent a week with my friend of nearly 50 years.  If there is 
> a heaven and our late spouses are looking down at us, we know what they 
> would say.  "Look at them, having a great time together, nice to see it"

Not if they are Catholics!